- working on things that matter
- working with people who make us smile
- working right from our heart
They're like the ox that pulls the cart
Happy Thanksgiving and family/friend time, everyone!
Labels: stress, suffering, Wise Livelihood
A Relief Society lesson in which I shared my meditation practice
0 comments Posted by weaselby at 1:49 PM"We are of the same Father in the celestial worlds. ... If we knew each other as we should,...our sympathies would be excited more than they are at the present time, and there would be a desire on the part of every individual to study in their own minds how they might do their brethren good, how they might alleviate their sorrows and build them up in truth, how [they might] remove the darkness from their minds. If we understand each other and the real relationship which we hold to each other, we should feel different from what we do; but this knowledge can be obtained only as we obtain the Spirit of life, and as we are desirous of building each other up in righteousness."
I know it's popular and makes sense to "look out for #1, because no one else is going to," but imagine if everyone practiced the above, to do for others more than they expect to be done for themselves. Everyone would be amply cared for. I know it sounds naive and utopianistic, but it's beautiful and is possible. It's just that everyone has to do it. And the only person you can personally ensure does this is you. There's that quote attributed to Gandhi, "be the change you wish to see in the world." Love it. But in the interest of accuracy, since that's not exactly what Gandhi said, here's the closest actual attributed quote:
And, with that very eloquent segue, here is an excerpt from Shantideva's The Way of the Bodhisattva (Padmakara Translation Group edition). It's from the chapter "Taking Hold of Bodhichitta" ("bodhichitta" being "enlightenment mind," the mind that strives toward awakening and compassion for the benefit of all sentient beings):
Labels: friendship, God, happiness, harmony, kindness, love, lovingkindess, meditation, universal altruism
I watched the BBC's Hawking yesterday. Totally captivated my imagination. Those guys deal with and say the same things about science, physics, the origin of the universe, as I've come to conclude through my study and meditation on scripture and God. Below are some quotes I've read in the last few days that go along with the idea that God the power is the Law of reality that created, governs, and maintains the universe.
"I believe the universe is governed by the laws of science," he said. "The laws may have been decreed by God, but God does not intervene to break the laws." -Stephen Hawing
Quickly, on the subject of miracles: I don't think the above quote negates the possibility or reality of miracles. I think that God has to operate within the laws of nature and science, since God the person is one with God the power, which is the Law of nature and science. For God the person to break or go contrary to this Law (God the power) would be to obliterate God's existence. I believe in miracles. I believe God has all power, since God (person and Law, which are the same) is all power. So of course there are miracles, those things which seem to defy reason or reality. But miracles must necessarily actually be in accordance with the Law, or else the whole thing is ca-put. You know?
Einstein's Theory of Relativity, bolded bit going along with the idea of interdependence:
As summarized by an American astronomer, Professor Henry Norris Russell, of Princeton, in the Scientific American for November 29 [early 1910s, I think?], Einstein's contribution amounts to this:
"The central fact which has been proved--and which is of great interest and importance--is that the natural phenomena involving gravitation and inertia (such as the motions of the planets) and the phenomena involving electricity and magnetism (including the motion of light) are not independent of one another, but are intimately related, so that both sets of phenomena should be regarded as parts of one vast system, embracing all Nature..." H. A. Lorentz, The Einstein Theory of Relativity. Public domain book on my Kindle, so no accurate page number, sorry.
And, Buddhist and the Dalai Lama's thoughts on the origin of the universe:
"These long speculative descriptions [the Buddhist explanation of the universe, its origin and disposition, etc]--elaborated by successive schools and often contradicting one another--run counter to Sakyamuni's [The Buddha, Siddharta Gautama] fundamental recommendation not to plunge 'the cord of thought into the impenetrable.' The question the eternity of the universe, and consequently of its origins, actually seems to have been part of the 'fourteen unexplained views.' The Buddha even said, 'Knowledge of all these things cannot make anyone take one step forward on the road to holiness and peace.' His only answer was silence.
Nevertheless, as the Dalai Lama told me on several occasions, on the one hand, events without a cause cannot be accepted, and on the other hand, it is absolutely necessary to pay attention to the advances of science to modify, if need be, the Scriptures. Thus there is no reason to be surprised at how little he insists on going back to ancient theories. He prefers to stick to the Big Bang and to try to find in it an explanation that jibes with the essentials of Buddhist teaching.
Apropos of the Big Bang, I remind him that this ironic expression, coined by astrophysicist Fred Hoyle, who was opposed to it, is based on an idea formulateed by a Belgian priest, Fr. Gearges-Henri Lemaitre. Even in scientific theories often enough it's possible to find a trace of 'hidden metaphysics.' The idea of an 'explosion,' of a brutal, luminous beginning of the world, can in fact be harmonized with the biblical account of Creation." -The Dalai Lama with Jean-Claude Carriere, Violence and Compassion: Dialogues on Life Today, 191.
Houston traffic is awful. Rush hour on the major roads starts at 3 pm and starts to dwindle around 7 pm. About 82% of drivers refuse to use blinkers for turning or for land changes. (An additional 3% keep their blinkers on inappropriately.) My husband has been hit 3 times in 3 years by people not signalling and just merging into him in his lane. There is a theory that people don't use blinkers because if you do, the drivers around you know that you're trying to get into their lane, so they'll speed up to squeeze you out. Oh, they definitely do that.
I can be one of the best rude drivers in the world. I'd get all jumped up on righteous indignation when people speed up a lane that has been marked as ending for miles, only to dart into the line of people who responsibly merged in advance of the lane ending. I'd squeeze them out and get all angry if they managed to get in front of me.
Then I read something in one of my early Buddhist books (can't remember which one :( ) about driving, about seeing interdependence and unity even in traffic. It changed my life. On the road, we all have a destination to reach. We all want to get there safely (apparent contradicting driving behavior aside, most people do want to reach their destination in a timely fashion and, oh, alive).
So, I practice compassion, patience, and unity while driving. It's my driving meditation. That truck needs to get into my lane because we are going in the same direction. We are doing the same thing. We are both people in cars who have the right to get where we're going. Why in the world did I used to pride myself on making things more difficult for people?
I now drive mindfully of those around me and do whatever I can to accommodate them on the road. It eliminates the stress and anger in my mind and body, which has a great impact on the small people riding in the backseat :) I also like to think that helping people on their way might lessen their stress in turn, and maybe even if someone notices my driving style, they might be inspired to copy it. And thus the ripples spread. :)
Not only can you use driving as an opportunity to connect with other people, you can use driving to connect with creation on a broader basis. Give it a try the next time you're in a traffic jam, not moving and powerless to improve the situation. This is a passage from Sylvia Boorstein's book, Pay Attention, for Goodness' Sake. It's from a California driving instructor, so he's kind of an expert at driving, you know? ;)
This was my revelation: “I'll get to Antioch when I get to Antioch. Maybe today. Maybe not today. Maybe I'll be there for the meeting. Maybe I won't be there for the meeting. Whatever will be will be. My getting aggravated is not changing the situation. It is making it worse.”
Sylvia Boorstein, Pay Attention, For Goodness' Sake, 178-180
Labels: meditation
I have a bunch of excellent passages that I want to record for future reference. No synthesis, sorry. They're just excellent to read through. First, Sylvia Boorstein, Pay Attention, For Goodness' Sake:
There are only two possible responses to every challenge--balanced acceptance or embittered resistance. Acceptance is freedom. Resistance is suffering.
"This is what's happening. It cannot be otherwise. Struggling is extra. Struggling is suffering."
Everything is always changing, and so nothing can be permanently satisfying. And I absolutely know that railing and resenting when I am displeased with life's unfolding compounds my pain. Life unfolds lawfully, guided by conditions far too complex for me to know and certainly beyond my control.
The pain we feel about what has happened intensifies with bitterness--which we often cannot help but feel--and we suffer. In a moment of Wisdom--"It is me. It is now. It is painful. And it will be painful for as long as it is, and then it will change"--the suffering stops. The heart's natural compassion becomes available to provide support, to comfort the pain.
Recounted from a friend, talking about his teacher, who greeted everyone with "Thank you":
"Renouncing contention was Lama Yeshe's practice. His thanking was a way of keeping himself from getting frightened. I completely got it, that things happen, that not everything is what you want, that some things you need to change, but that it's all part of life, and that it is manageable. Workable."
However amazing life is, it is full of pain. ... [N]ot resenting, not being in contention with circumstance, not adding extra suffering to pain, doesn't require all-out thanking. It only requires accepting. It requires being able to say, "This is what's true. Okay."
Forgiving is hard practice, too, but it's plausible. Reasonable.
Don't add rage to pain.
"What is the meaning of life?" does not solve the problem of "What should we do?" ... Ending suffering depends on seeing clearly, without bias, "It's like this," so the "What should we do?" question can answer itself.
Life is so difficult
How can we be anything but kind?
That's enough for now. I have more that I need to copy out of my current book, so I'm sure there will be at least one more entry on suffering.
Labels: acceptance, anger, impermanence, kindness, resentment, suffering
This is from Sylvia Boorstein's Pay Attention, for Goodness' Sake. She recounts a conversation she had with a Muslim cab driver about prayer. This bit picks up after she asked him who often and for how long he prayed:
"Well, it could take a long time or short. If you have a short time, you can do it in a short time. Probably longer is better... You know,m it really doesn't matter how long you pray. Some people stand and pray all day but it doesn't really count because it's not connected to their heart."
"Really? How do you connect it to your heart?"
"Well, you can't just decide. It gets connected to your heart when you know what the situation here is. It's like we've all been thrown in the middle of the ocean. Nobody knows how to swim. We're all drowning. It breaks your heart. You see that, then you connect."
That is what I'd get tattooed, on the inside of my left wrist, above my mala bracelet. A permanent reminder of the following, inspired by the section on the paramita (perfection of the heart) lovingkindness, from Sylvia Boorstein's Pay Attention, For Goodness' Sake:
1. Always tell good stories about people to other people. Provide everyone with as much opportunity for love and harmony as possible by providing a good ground for people to love and be loved.
2. Always tell good stories about people to yourself. Ruminating on old wounds or insults causes the hurt to rot. We're all just trying to do the best we can, and we all mess up. Be forgiving of others, and be kind to yourself in letting the hurt go. Holding onto hurt is not a strength, it is a self-inflicted and chronic weakness. Forgiveness and love are the only things that can make you whole again.
3. Always tell good stories about yourself to yourself. Be kind to yourself. Allow yourself to grow. Be gently mindful of who you are and what you do. Be forgiving and supportive of yourself when you need to make adjustments. Recognize and nurture the good in you and what you do.
It is this way that we must train ourselves:
by liberation of the self through love
we will develop love,
we will practice it,
we will make it both a way and a basis,
take a stand upon it,
store it up,
and thoroughly set it going.
-The Buddha
Labels: forgiveness, harmony, kindness, love, lovingkindness, unity